I'm a member of a site that measures public opinion on a variety of subjects.
They use various ways of gathering people's points of view one of which is is a comments box.
Basically, instead of a user name, each person has a reference number that they use on the public side of the site so that you don't get people tracking you down to kill you because your opinion offended their cat or something.
Now the comments box allows you to post an opinion on anything you want to and do it publicly so that people can rate it and/or comment on it.
So the other day after reading (yet another) one sided, man-hating article on Facebook, I decided to post a comment on this site stating that, as a woman, I am embarrassed by feminists.
The comments box only allows you to use 500 words so I wasn't able to put in my full explanation and it appears to have been a rather controversial subject.
Half the people who've seen it are in complete agreement, the other half may well be forming a lynch mob and attempting to hack the site for my contact details!
The thing is....
I am a woman. I have all the lady bits. Seriously, there's nothing swinging around in my pants and I have some rather jiggly norks up top. Definitely a woman.
And I enjoy being a woman. I like wearing dresses and make-up, I love cooking and looking after my kids, I even like the fact that my husband is at work all day and I make him a coffee when he gets in.
I don't do these things because I have a 1940's mentality or because I'm being oppressed, I do them because I enjoy them.
People go on about how the suffragettes fought and died so that women could have the same rights as men and I do appreciate that, I really do! But here's the thing that a lot of modern 'feminists' don't seem to get:
Men had the right to choose how they were treated, women didn't. That doesn't mean that all of us HAVE to go out and work, it means we CAN if we want to.
When Rob and I had Ashley, he had a better paying job than I did and I hated the work I was doing. Plus, I was going to be made redundant a few months after my maternity leave finished. It made sense for me to stay at home and for him to work...especially as childcare costs would have meant that we were worse off if both of us worked.
When Ashley started school I could have gone back to work part time but I didn't want to. By this time we had made some pretty good investments that I looked after at home and there was no need for me to work. Instead, I concentrated on my voluntary work and made sure that it never interfered with me collecting Ashley from school and making the tea.
A lot of people seem to think that means I gave up. It totally didn't. I choose to live my life like this. I wasn't forced to.
If I decided to start looking for a job today then Rob would support me 100%...as long as I was doing it because I wanted to. That, to me, is equality.
I can change a tyre on my car, I can fix my brakes, change my oil, hang wallpaper, and throw a punch...but I don't. I don't want to and I have no need to prove to anyone that I can so why do these feminists think they're doing me a favour by telling me that I must?
The article that prompted this opinion really pissed me off.
The woman who wrote it was saying that she'd got drunk one night and had a one-night stand. She woke up the following morning and regretted it. Despite the fact that both she and the man she was with were both drunk and had agreed to have sex, she claimed it was rape as she wasn't of sound mind.
Someone had pointed out that the man could be saying the same thing and she went nuts. Apparently, it's different.
Now, I have slept with men and women who were drunker than I was at the time, does that make me a rapist? My husband went on a night out with his friends and came back sloshed, we had sex. We both consented but as he was drunk have I raped my husband?
Not according to this woman. As I don't have a penis (well, I have one in a drawer somewhere but the batteries ran out) I can't commit rape.
To me this is just wrong. These people seem to think that being equal means that men are stupid, violent animals and the only way to be equal is to treat them as inferior. That's not equality. The people who originally fought for women's rights would spin in their graves (in my mind at least). We've taken all they fought for and turned it upside down.
You don't get equal rights by treating the people who originally oppressed you as they treated you. You get them by being equal in all things. By making the choices that are right for you and taking other peoples rights in to account.
As I said in my comment on the opinion site:
You keep using the word equality. I don't think it means what you think it means
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